On being a sexual poltergeist

Originally published at: https://thoughtleader.co.za/on-being-a-sexual-poltergeist/

More than simply annoying or rude, ghosting can have genuine psychological and emotional effects as being left on read can have genuine effects on a person’s sense of self-worth and mental health.

“… online communication … making it that much easier to connect, but also to disconnect” - Yes, it’s easier to connect on a superficial level, in which case, being disconnected is no problem. The trick is to avoid misinterpreting a friendly, affectionate approach as a sign of romantic interest. That’s why women often look down at the ground when passing a guy.

“It doesn’t hurt to give a little communication, even if it is just to say goodbye.” - Giving a little communication can unleash an avalanche of tears and recrimination, so that’s why we don’t do it of course.

Life is messy. Some problems have no elegant solutions. You are going to lose your dignity multiple times. Learn to accept that you are only human and cultivate the ability to live in the present. Forget being guilty about stuff, just pick yourself up and get on with it.

Find an easy task to distract yourself from your troubles, for example, give someone a little help and, when they reward you with a smile, you’ll feel encouraged to carry on with the battle.

“The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer someone else up.” - Mark Twain